Archive for April, 2017

DARE YOUR FEARS

Posted: April 26, 2017 in UNLEASHIDEA INC.

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Dare Your Fears!! 😱 

Today I want to challenge to face your fears of letting go! Your ability to activate greater results in life is in letting go of those things that doesn’t matter and embrace new.  

Let go that toxic relationship, old friends, task,  things,  place,  et al 
There are few common fears that appear when it’s time to let go of something.  What are you hanging on to even though it’s time to let go? Which of these pesky fears is it time to face? 

1. Fear of being wrong?

2. Fear of the unknown ?

3. Fear of regret? 

4. Fear of loneliness ?

5. Dear of what people will say? Damn it jare! Lol 
Breaking through fear requires on key factor: COURAGE.  Courage requires FAITH and TRUST that your future will be okay without the thing you are letting go of.  

What, who, where are you holding which are destroying, limiting or will have negative impact on your life? Let GO today and activate yourself for greatness! Trust your struggles! You are illimitable. 
Today promises to be great on #BreakingBarriers as Sola Fajana takes the stage in the concluding series of PASSION TO PROFIT.  You can’t afford to miss this great session. 
Remember with God its people like us that succeed in life. 

To your success, 

Adedayo Olabamiji

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1. ​it’s been a great day, from ensuring a #CleanWarri to #BreakingBarriers @dayus4heaven @BreakingBarrie3 #NoToDomesticViolence
2. A lot’s been said today but let me add my little: The thoughts of a teen who cries “get that voice out of my head” #NoToDomesticViolence

3. There are so many great thoughts running in my mind but for that voice which taunts me #NoToDomesticViolence @dayus4heaven

4. In my heart I know am right but in my mind I can’t decipher my left from right #NoToDomesticViolence

5. It is louder than noise itself, it steals my peace and health #NoToDomesticViolence

6. It drives me crazy that I now act insane. Have I lost my mind? Oh that voice inside #NoToDomesticViolence

7. It drowns my dreams and feeds my fears, my light’s gone dim I wake in tears #NoToDomesticViolence

8. Oh that voice within my head, someone please help or am dead #NoToDomesticViolence

9. Get that voice out of my head so I can add to life like butter on bread #NoToDomesticViolence

10. Get that voice out of my head, I have so much to be, do & share before I grow some beard #NoToDomesticViolence

11. Get that voice out of my head, stop your noise, listen instead #NoToDomesticViolence

12. Get that voice out of my head, I am a rainbow, beautiful, not only coloured in red. #NoToDomesticViolence

13. The cries of children (#teens) are mostly unheard because their voice is silenced by oppression from seniors #NoToDomesticViolence

14. Denying #Teens the right to express & contribute their uniqueness is a plaguing abuse. Everyone matter. #NoToDomesticViolence

15. Before we fill their thoughts with our words, let’s give them chance to speak their minds #NoToDomesticViolence

16. Before we punish their hideous acts, let’s ensure we orient in love with words and action #NoToDomesticViolence

17. Dysfunctional adults are a reflection of a dysfunctional childhood. #NoToDomesticViolence

18. Correction done in anger incubates violence that leads to chaos #NoToDomesticViolence

19. Words of wisdom sealed in an envelope of love, leaves a more indelible impression in the heart of a #Teen #NoToDomesticViolence

20. Physical beating may toughen #Teens but it weakens the foundation of their value systems #NoToDomesticViolence

21. Let this be our reason not to have a reason for violence; that to get better, we need to do better. #NoToDomesticViolence

22. Violence violates every principle that leads to opulence, I AM CHUNU TEJIRI JERRY, I SAY #NoToDomesticViolence

Thanks you Tejiri Chunu for those insightful words on #BreakingBarriers #NoToDomesticViolence 

To your success,

Adedayo Olabamiji  

Passion To Profit 

Posted: April 14, 2017 in UNLEASHIDEA INC.

​1. Traditional advice says, “Find a job. Any job.” But the world’s most successful people say, “Passion drives progress, which becomes success.” #BreakingBarriers

2. Tech entrepreneurs like Larry Page, Mark Zuckerberg and Jeff Bezos know the best laid plans lie not in the details, but in the spark that initiated them. 

3.  Napoleon Hill did extensive research of the world’s richest men in his time.

4.  Their stories varied, but their commitment to their vision was a constant, and that set them apart from the mere mortals. Secret of being consistent over a course or things you do is traced passion.

5.  Hill says do what you love, or else you will lack the energy to become truly successful.

6.  “No man can succeed in a line of endeavour which he does not like,

 7. “It is the soul’s duty to be loyal to its own desires. It must abandon itself to its master passion.” —Rebecca West

8.  The thing with passion is that you can’t fake it

9. Truth is obvious that we can no more explain a passion to a person who has never experienced it than we can explain light to the blind. Its deep! 

10. You need to understand that  passion, not money, is one of the key drivers of success.

11. Do not wait for better times, because there is never going to be the perfect time.

12. We must act out passion before we can feel it. And you can’t argue with that logic. 

13. Nothing is as important as passion. No matter what you want to do with your life, be passionate.”

14. f you feel like there’s something out there that you’re supposed to be doing, if you have a passion for it, then stop wishing and just do it.” —Wanda Skyes

15. The only way to do great work is to love what you do. keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it.” Steve Job

16. Oprah Winfrey corroborates this: “Passion is energy. Feel the power that comes from focusing on what excites you.

17. Why is passion such a powerful motivator? It keeps you going even when all seems down. 

18. Only passion makes your goals attractive. 

19. When passion is involved in a cause, you will be glad to jump out of the best to chase your dreams.

20. What you are passionate about drives and engage the whole of you and hence enable you invest much energy.

21.  if you want something badly enough, you will find the willpower to achieve it and you won’t stop trying until you do.

22. Passion is that which deeply stirs us. It’s the fire from within and that which motivates us. 

23. When passion is missing, our actions lack meaning and we don’t get the results we want … passion is the seed from which commitment blossoms

24. Work is only one component of our lives (or it should be). 

25. If you’re passionate about feeding the poor or helping the homeless, you don’t have to get a job in a soup kitchen or at a homeless shelter.

26. You just need to make the commitment to find time and opportunities to get out there and help. 

27. In today’s overscheduled world, is it hard to carve out some time to do things you truly love? It certainly can be.

28.  But no one who seriously talks about pursuing their passion ever says it is easy. They do, however, unequivocally say that it’s worth the effort.

29. Just like a plant needs water, your passion needs to be nurtured a little bit every day in order for it to grow to the point where it becomes obvious to you and the rest of the world,” says Schwartz.

30. There is no passion to be found playing small—in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living. —Nelson Mandela

  31. Honestly you find ease when passion is involved in anything you do! Life is too short to live frustrated.

32. As you get engrossed and loyal to what works for you, profit set in and life pays you back directly or indirectly.

33. Your ability to give solution, meet deadlines, empowered creativity and perfect delivery is locked down in doing what you are passionate about.

34. Expand your passion:

35. When you start a business based on a personal interest, it can be easy to assume that the business must remain on the same track to maintain your dedication. 

36. But the most successful entrepreneurs understand that change is good and that there may be more than one way to meet your original goals

37. Keep the passion alive.

 38. Once your business gets going, you can become mired in the daily tasks of running a company and watch your original excitement dry up. 

39. Keep your passion alive by staying involved in the aspects you love most

40. Spending too much time on repetitive tasks you can delegate to others will ultimately dampen your enthusiasm and end up burning you out. 

41. Otherwise, your work will turn into a form of drudgery that may kill your passion for the original hobby.”

42. I challenge you to looking inward, follow your passion, live your dreams and fulfill purpose.

Thanks fam for staying tune! 
Remember with God its people like us that succeed in life..
To your success,

Adedayo Olabamiji 

SELF ESTEEM 

Posted: April 8, 2017 in UNLEASHIDEA INC.


1. ​Thank you @dayus4heaven for the warm welcome. An awesome time reading wisdom from other guests. #NotoDomesticViolence #BreakingBarriers

2. Domestic Violence affects us all, Sometimes its not so obvious. #NotoDomesticViolence #BreakingBarriers @dayus4heaven

3. It starts from an areas we feel is just fine until lifes experience, bring them to a surface. #NotoDomesticViolence #BreakingBarriers

4. That part is Self Esteem. You need it to face Life. In fact its what you need to avoid DV. #NotoDomesticViolence #BreakingBarriers

5. Many a DV victim points to a time in their life Self Esteem awareness was an issue. #NotoDomesticAwarenes #BreakingBarriers

6. Self Esteem is much of the confidence you have as much as the confidence parents confer on you. #NotoDomestiViolence #BreakingBarriers

7. For some Parents did a good job building Confidence,they say Nothing was a secret in our family. #NotoDomesticViolence #BreajkingVarriers

8.For children from such homes face challenges in relationships better. Nobody can put them down #NotoDomestiViolence #BreakingBarriers

9. Self Esteem is very important, People who faced DV,say gradual erosion of self esteem was a first. #NotoDomesticViolence #BreakingBarriers

10. An Abusive person always targets your self Esteem, Sometimes it’s not intentional at first. #NotoDomestiViolence #BreakingBarriers

11. Then the apologies, again to yells and slaps until its downright beating. #NotoDomestiViolence #BreakingBarriers

12. Until it became constant, Sometimes we expect the woman or man to Walk, hard at this point,Why? #NotoDomesticViolence #BreakingBarriers

13. Because the Self Esteem is gone, That’s why the lady says she can’t she’s got nothing left #NotoDomestiViolence #BreakingBarriersh

14. Lack of Self Esteem would make you accept a conditioning of lifestyle and mindset to DV.#NotoDomestiViolence #BreakingBarriers

15. Have wondered why an Abusive person who lacks self worth, knows how to target anothers Self Esteem?#NotoDomestiViolence #BreakingBarriers

16. Very Easy, You can’t give what you don’t have. So stay aware of who you are at all times #NotoDomestiViolence #BreakingBarriershealthy

17. What state are you in right now? So much is going on and a healthy Self Esteem is your Ammo #NotoDomesticViolence #BreakingBarriers

18. When a Man or Woman belittles you, take note and ask questions. Never be afraid to ask. #NotoDomesticViolence #BreakingBarriers

19. You are constantly put in a state when you’re surrounded by violence #NotoDomesticViolence #BreakingBarriers

20. Start with your first Weapon your Self Esteem! Where you have that,you’ll thrive #NotoDomesticViolence #BreakingBarriers

21. Domestic Abuse starts when the Abuser knows your Self Esteem is gone #NotoDomesticViolence #BreakingBarriers

22. Guard it,its your safety net for yourself and your generation Broken people need heal to Lead so Heal! Thank you #NotoDomesticViolence
We want to appreciate Bukola Ajiboye for those insightful words on #BreakingBarriers
Remember with God its people like us that succeed in life. 
To your success, 

Adedayo Olabamiji  

DEMYSTIFYING ABUSE 

Posted: April 8, 2017 in UNLEASHIDEA INC.

1.  Good evening everyone. My name is Eniola Ennmae Adeniji and tonight I will speaking on the topic: Demystifying Abuse. #BreakingBarriers

2. People often think of domestic violence as men/women being physically violent towards their partners. #NoToDomesticViolence

3. Domestic violence is a pattern of abusive and threatening behaviors that may include physical, emotional, #NoToDomesticViolence

4. Economic and sexual violence as well as intimidation, isolation and coercion.

5. The purpose of domestic violence is often to establish and exert power and control over another; #NoToDomesticViolence

6.  Men most often use it against their intimate partners, such as current or former spouses or dating partners. #NoToDomesticViolence

7. Domestic violence is behavior that is learned through observation & reinforcement in both the family & society. #NoToDomesticViolence

8. It is not caused by genetics or illness. Domestic violence is repeated because it works. #NoToDomesticViolence

9. Domestic violence allows the perpetrator to gain control of the victim through fear and intimidation. #NoToDomesticViolence

10. Gaining the victim’s compliance, even temporarily, reinforces the perpetrator’s use of these tactics of control.

11. More importantly, however, the perpetrator’s abusive behavior is reinforced by the socially sanctioned belief. #NoToDomesticViolence

12. The one that says men have the right to control women in relationships and to use force to ensure that control. #NoToDomesticViolence

13.  At the age of 22 I was married. I was young, naive,had a great life and job. Domestic violence was just a mirth #NoToDomesticViolence

14. I was oh so in love.I just couldn’t wait for forever. Until a month to the wedding and I was asked to resign. #NoToDomesticViolence

15. It was subtle, yet it was a demand I didn’t seem to have a choice in. He was going to be my husband afterall. #NoToDomesticViolence

16. He wanted me to resign from my job, since we’d be relocating to another town. I was in love, what could go wrong. #NoToDomesticViolence

17. It all began first with making sure I had no source of income then it proceeded to isolation and eventually abuse. #NoToDomesticViolence

18. We need to know that domestic violence can take a variety of shapes and forms. #NoToDomesticViolence

19. From emotional abuse, to sexual abuse and of course to near-fatal physical battering. #NoToDomesticViolence

20. Both married and unmarried women can experience domestic violence, so it isn’t limited to only those married. #NoToDomesticViolence

21.  The first time I spoke out about being abused,someone had asked ‘Did he hit you’, I said NO. She laughed it off #NoToDomesticViolence

22. Yet I was abused daily. But because I wasn’t beaten black and blue, then it was regarded as not a big deal. #NoToDomesticViolence

23. Yet I had fears going to bed every night, because he’d force himself on me and I’d end up with bruises. #NoToDomesticViolence

24. Yet, I wasn’t allowed to go out nor allowed any visitor. We don’t go visiting anyone and no one came visiting. #NoToDomesticViolence

25. The first time I spoke about being a victim of economic abuse in a meeting, everyone had laughed silly, lol. #NoToDomesticViolence

26.  Economic abuse Is defined as making or attempting to make an individual financially dependent. #NoToDomesticViolence

27. By maintaining total control over financial resources,withholding access to money,or forbidding one’s employment #NoToDomesticViolence

28. Yet I found myself here. From being a young purposeful & successful young girl to a woman who can’t afford a pad #NoToDomesticViolence

29. I had to depend on him being happy as a determinant of me having a pad 2 use monthly, or risk using cut fabrics #NoToDomesticViolence

30. I had to depend on the #200 (Two hundred naira), daily given to me, as long as he was happy. #NoToDomesticViolence

31. I finally walked out after 3 miserable years. Yes, I was judged and ridiculed. The stigmatization was at my face. #NoToDomesticViolence

32. Yes I was judged because the society believes, I must have deserve it. Oh, you ought to die there as a woman. #NoToDomesticViolence

33. But that is the story of quite a lot of women. I have counselled over 100 women and just bits of differences. #NoToDomesticViolence

34. We have been made to believe it is only expected of d woman to mk it work. And if it isn’t,just stay there mute #NoToDomesticViolence

35. Nobody deserves to be treated cruel and like an animal. Never ever let anyone make you believe that. #NoToDomesticViolence

36. You are not alone, do not die in an abusive relationship not marriage. If you need help, please seek for it. #NoToDomesticViolence

37. Yes, you may be judged, you may even be laughed at by some. But you  would be ‘Alive’. And that’s all that count #NoToDomesticViolence

38. Thank you very much for having me. I look forward to sharing more in the future. Have a good evening. #NoToDomesticViolence
We want to appreciate Eniola for those expository and insightful words on #BreakingBarriers.
Remember with God its people like us that succeed in life.  
To your success, 

Adedayo Olabamiji  

Twitter : @dayus4heaven 

ILLUSION OF EQUALITY 

Posted: April 8, 2017 in UNLEASHIDEA INC.

1. What a huge honor to be here to share with us. Thank you @dayus4heaven. #NoToDomesticViolence

2. Tonight I will be looking at our discourse from a perspective as a parenting coach. #NoToDomesticViolence

3. What I will be sharing tonight is an accumulation of experiences listening to my clients, #NoToDomesticViolence

4. Empirical observation and psychopathological inferences. #NoToDomesticViolence

5. I want to appreciate all the other speakers, their sessions were resourceful. #NoToDomesticViolence

6. While its very good we advocate for equally, while is very good to have laws that punish offenders… #NoToDomesticViolence

7. It’s important to note that Domestic violence is not the result of losing control, #NoToDomesticViolence

8. Domestic violence is intentionally trying to control another person. #NoToDomesticViolence

9. DM is intentional use of manipulative tools to gain control, a feat that has worked for the abuser over time. #NoToDomesticViolence

10. Let me share on two of the major root causes of domestic violence #NoToDomesticViolence

11. A dysfunctional community. #NoToDomesticViolence

12. The home is the first community a child is influenced to, hence responsible for shaping a child’s ideology. #NoToDomesticViolence

13. The child’s environment, which is a sub-set of the child’s community, #NoToDomesticViolence

14. Is also a major influence on how a child treats other human. #NoToDomesticViolence

15. How we treat our fellow humans is a reflection of our shared value system as a community. #NoToDomesticViolence

16. Domestic violence is an unveiling of the patterns learned during upbringing. #FaultyUpbringing #NoToDomesticViolence

17. All domestic violence is an ineffective way to communicate, which of course, got its root from the home. #NoToDomesticViolence

18. B.Ineffective communication- #NoToDomesticViolence

19. Because of being raised in a dysfunctional society, lot of children becomes Ill-equipped #NoToDomesticViolence

20. With how to effectively communicate their anger, hurt, pain or displeasure. #NoToDomesticViolence

21. Hence, the abusers project their hurt and unresolved issues on another human, #NoToDomesticViolence

22. Which manifest itself in form of physical abuse, emotional abuse, verbal abuse et al. #NoToDomesticViolence

23. Domestic abusers are carriers of unresolved issues, either from childhood, environment or emotional experience, #NoToDomesticViolence

24. Who just use others as symbol vehicle to pay back on their unresolved past. #NoToDomesticViolence

25. We all have a duty to empower our community (home) to treat all humans with dignity and respect, #NoToDomesticViolence

26. Irrespective of our cultural, religious or social affiliation. #NoToDomesticViolence

30. Parents should be intentional about the community the erect for their children and the life the need to model. #NoToDomesticViolence

31. Children should be taught emotional mastery and how to interprete life’s situations #NoToDomesticViolence

32. Parents, like all humans should seek effective means to communicate their displeasure or experiences of the past. #NoToDomesticViolence

33. The abuser and abused need help, to re-engineer the residue of their experiences, #NoToDomesticViolence

34. If we love enough to treat one another as ourselves, we wouldn’t want to hurt one another. #NoToDomesticViolence

35. I’ll stop here for tonight. Thank you for following

We want to appreciate Adeh Jones for those great nuggets shared on #Breakingbarriers. 
To your success, 

Adedayo Olabamiji 

Twitter): @dayus4heaven 

NO TO DOMESTIC VIOLENCE 

Posted: April 8, 2017 in UNLEASHIDEA INC.

1. Hello y’all & thanks for having me on your platform to talk about an issue that’s now so pandemic-DV|#NoToDomesticViolence #BreakingBarriers

2. Definition of DV has been given earlier, sharing it again so that we address the full spectrum | #NoToDomesticViolence #BreakingBarriers

3. DV affects everyone regardless of strata or education and can be perpetrated by all genders | #NoToDomesticViolence #BreakingBarriers

4. DV affects not just the victims, but also family members, friends, co-workers, community at large |#NoToDomesticViolence #BreakingBarriers

5. Sadly, victims of DV often cite their children as a reason for staying in abusive relationships | #NoToDomesticViolence #BreakingBarriers

6. Often we talk of the more obvious cases of domestic abuse –Physical & Sexual but neglect others | #NoToDomesticViolence #BreakingBarriers

7. Psychological-Emotional-Verbal-Economic/Financial Abuse are also as insidious/DAMAGING to victims|#NoToDomesticViolence #BreakingBarriers

8. According to Craig Malkin, PhD, “many victims of DV suffer from post-traumatic stress syndrome, one symptom of which is dissociation..”

9. “DISSOCIATION creates such profound detachment from reality of the abuse that sufferers scarcely remember/are in DENIAL of being hurt..”

10.Dissociated victims often DON’T leave abusers because they aren’t psychologically present enough to process their pain/danger of abuse..

11. Often it would take a well-trained professional to do a strategic intervention which gets victims of abuse back into an ASSOCIATED state

12. In a nation like Nigeria with a social COGNITIVE DISSONANCE and skewed Religious/Cultural influences in some cases, DISSOCIATION is HIGH

13. This is why I encourage many religious orgs to have a formal network of professionally trained mental health professionals for referrals

14. Are you a VICTIM or PERPETRATOR of domestic violence? Here are some general definitions of each |#NoToDomesticViolence #BreakingBarriers

15. Physical abuse is more commonly talked about & often easily prosecuted; easier to gather evidence |#NoToDomesticViolence #BreakingBarriers

16. Sexual abuse in a relationship often fall under the grey areas as it is often difficult to prove|#NoToDomesticViolence #BreakingBarriers

17. Are you an unconscious victim or perpetrator of Financial abuse in your relationship? Self-check|#NoToDomesticViolence #BreakingBarriers

18. A quick note -during challenging economic conditions/recession, even healthy relationships need a lot of communication about finances..

19. During dating/courtship or even if an arranged marriage, I often suggest that couples “make money talk part of their pillow/date talk!”

20. Sometimes, a prospective spouse/partner may be seemingly “perfect” during courtship & victims of domestic violence fail to see any sign

21. In other instances, abusers begin early to show signs of a pre-disposition to abuse. Once you notice anything, do NOT ignore your gut!!

22. Lack of financial independence is often cited by victims of DV as a reason for staying on in it|#NoToDomesticViolence #BreakingBarriers

23. In societies without established laws/enforcement of child custodial rights/alimony, it affects choices of victims|#NoToDomesticViolence

24. I advocate starting early to teach financial independence to ALL children, especially GIRLS |#NoToDomesticViolence #BreakingBarriers

25. I also highly recommend all religious organizations involve professional subject matter experts to talk to couples BEFORE their marriage

26. Every faith-based org I work with, I encourage them to have an open door policy for professional intervention re domestic abuse cases.

27. Religious organizations, community leaders/cultural influencers are necessary stakeholders to eliminate/curb domestic abuse in society.

28. Relevant Laws are very important & Govt MUST provide good regulatory framework -however, IT is all geared more to ENFORCEMENT, post DV

29. Many cases where abusers use $/expensive gifts as control tools to “buy” their victim’s silence |#NoToDomesticViolence #BreakingBarriers

30. A Sign of DV – Emotional & Financial isolation; barring victims from pursuing careers/interests |#NoToDomesticViolence #BreakingBarriers

31. AGAIN, while dating/courting, it’s important 4 couples to discuss issues/expectations/boundaries|#NoToDomesticViolence #BreakingBarriers

33. Experts often refer to EMOTIONAL/Psychological abuse as the BIRTH PLACE of ALL other abuse types|#NoToDomesticViolence #BreakingBarriers

34. Psychological abuse involves using words OR using silence/malice to reduce self-worth of victims|#NoToDomesticViolence #BreakingBarriers

35. I recommend L. Bancroft’s book on Emotional Abuse-Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry & Controlling Men #NoToDomesticViolence

36. HOW do WE all curb Domestic Violence individually, as a Society/Community, as Govt Agencies? |#NoToDomesticViolence #BreakingBarriers

37. Skewed socio-cultural-traditional conditioning/religious beliefs are key factors abetting abuse |#NoToDomesticViolence #BreakingBarriers

38. Culture must be dynamic framework & evolves our interpretation of religion, beliefs, values. A static prism creates stagnation/injustice.

39. What WE condone (as a society-culture-group) simply persists. What society CONDEMNS, consistently/unequivocally DIES AWAY gradually/fast

40. ALL Genders should be taught a consciousness of personal boundary-setting, mutual respect, anger management, emotional guidance scales.

41. Prevention of DV starts with creating awareness on effective parenting to raise ALL kids with HEALTHY self-respect and clear boundaries

42. Prevention/curbing of DV involves creating awareness in educational/socio-cultural institutions |#NoToDomesticViolence #BreakingBarriers

43. Curbing DV entails educating religious leaders/community orgs on its causes, effects, solutions |#NoToDomesticViolence #BreakingBarriers

44. Prevention of DV-identifying/providing support 4 kids/adults who’re at risk esp if they witnessed abuse growing up|#NoToDomesticViolence

45. Organizations like @wholewomaninc & @wrapang carry out awareness programs with key stakeholders |#NoToDomesticViolence #BreakingBarriers

46. Refer to tweets on HOW TO CREATE SAFE SPACES for victims of DV by my colleague/fellow panelist, @SuperGirlTimidi |#NoToDomesticViolence

47. The basic foundation of safe spaces is EMPATHY –in our words, perceptions & judgments of victims|#NoToDomesticViolence #BreakingBarriers

48. As individuals/as a society, creating awareness to end the stigma around DV & decisions of victims to leave unsafe spaces = Critical..

49. Often, all abuse stems from INEQUALITY, insecurity, unhealthy mind space of “greater than” / “less than”. NASS should pass the #GEOBill

50. Educating a girl-child, in a patriarchal society, must expand to truly EMPOWERING her about finances, self-esteem/worth/boundary setting

51. Education/empowerment must also include the boy-child, to unlearn certain socially entrenched/socialized patterns of thoughts/behaviour

52. Societal shift needed-STOP shaming/blaming victims & rather hold perpetrators accountable for DV|#NoToDomesticViolence #BreakingBarriers

53. Victims of abuse, the children, their circle of friends and families need psycho-social support |#NoToDomesticViolence #BreakingBarriers

54. An area that’s often neglected is mandatory therapy & REHABILITATION of convicted or identified perpetrators of DV|#NoToDomesticViolence

55. How do we PRACTICE #NoToDomesticViolence using structured social, legal, systemic/regulatory frameworks/policies?|#NoToDomesticViolence

57. There’s a need to have the right legal/enforcement environment to curb DV. The VAPP law addresses some core issues |#NoToDomesticViolence

58. What are GAPS we must address as a society to create safer spaces & curb Domestic Violence? 1/2 |#NoToDomesticViolence #BreakingBarriers

59.  Need for co-ordination & integration of all the primary, secondary & inter-linked agencies in the value chain to curb domestic abuse|2/2

60. Govt participation -key stakeholder –NGOs/Faith-based groups must engage Govt persistently on deliverables/mandate/hold them accountable

61. Again, thanks for inviting me on your platform. My appreciation to all who engaged & retweeted AWARENESS IS KEY! We all CO-CREATE change

Thank you Juliet Kego for those insightful and expository  words shared on #BreakingBarriers.  

To your success, 

Adedayo Olabamiji 

Twitter : @dayus4heaven 

MAKING THINGS HAPPEN?

Posted: April 8, 2017 in UNLEASHIDEA INC.

Too many people spend their lives counting down the days until the weekend so they can bask in their temporary  …

Life either happen to you or you make like happen to you.   So how do you make things happen for yourself? Enough of complaining…. 👇👇
👉Keep the promises you make to yourself. I learned this one from Stephen Covey – we make little promises to ourselves all the time (“I’m going to stop working on weekends.” or “I’ll definitely get a workout in tonight.”) These promises are in fact more important to keep than the ones you make to your customers, your boss or your family.
Because private victories come before public ones.
👉Always be on a fast mood: If you’ve got a good idea, try to take some kind of action on it right away. Too often good ideas slip away, either due to momentum (it was exciting at the moment, but less so now) or just through forgetfulness. So when you have a good idea, send an email to a potential collaborator, sketch out some designs, or at the very least, make an Evernote note for the idea. 
👉If you’re achieving 100% of your goals, you aren’t thinking big enough. Only by really pushing yourself will you discover what you’re truly made out of. Whether it is a workout, a deadline, a business deal or a romantic partner, you’ve got to go out on a limb and reach for more than you think you can get.
👉When the right opportunity arises, seize it by the fucking throat. Once in awhile, a very special opportunity emerges – to travel somewhere, meet someone special, do something amazing. When you get that gut feeling that this is a big deal, do not hesitate to drop everything else you’re doing and pour all your energies into wringing that opportunity for everything it is worth.
Remember with God its people like us that succeed in life. 

To your success, 

Adedayo Olabamiji