HOW TO CONNECT THE DOTS IN YOUR LIFE 

Posted: July 14, 2016 in UNLEASHIDEA INC.

#BreakingBarriers WEEK 28

In life we make many decisions. But there are two decisions we didn’t make. The decision to be born and the family we were born to. Life is like a bus ride. One with many bus-stops and an opportunity to disembark at every stop to take a different bus to a different location. The decisions of which bus you take ultimately decides your destination and the results you get. You are presently the result of all the buses you have taken. All the bus-stops you have disembarked and all the new buses you have embarked. In other words, you are a culmination of all the decisions you have taken and those that have been taken on your behalf.

Life could be unforgiving of mistakes and it could be extremely rewarding of opportunities. A young girl whose education got truncated because of a teenage pregnancy might actually feel (at the time) that her life has ended when in fact it has actually started. A young man who became an orphan at a very young age might be forgiven if he feels the future ahead is very bleak. But is it really bleak? Such is the irony of life that in the midst of extreme despair might actually lie express hope.

Nothing encapsulate this more than in the renewable nature of life. The very fact that the sun rises and sets and rises again in day and night is a testament that inherent in life itself is the ability to make start, end and start again. If there can be day and night, then there can the opportunity to make mistakes and correct those same mistakes the next day. There are no absolutes in life, rather there are just incidences and events. There is a reason we celebrate the end of a year and the beginning of a new one. Think about it. What is the difference between Dec 31st and Jan 1st? Absolutely nothing. But inherent in those days is the realization that a new year offers you an opportunity to toe a new path, correct the mistakes of the past year and thrive to be better in the coming one. Its lives own way of offering you an opportunity to come down at a bus-stop and take a new bus heading to the destination of your dreams.

I remember my experience while on a course in Paris. I usually will take the metro from my hotel to the office. This day, I missed my stop and I got taken off course about 3 kilometers from my destination. I was lost but I knew I needed to walk in a particular direction to get on track. Eventually I got to my destination with my feet all sore and tired. The point is, while life offers you no relieve for the consequences of your decision, it does offer you an opportunity (at sometimes great cost) to re-connect and get back on track. The problem is – Would you take advantage of the opportunity and would you re-connect the dots?

Let me suggest some few points on how to re-connect the dots in your life. 1. Understand that everything that happens to you happens for a reason. And central to that reason is a learning curve. When things good or bad happens to me, I usually ask myself the question “What does this mean? What can I learn from this? And how can I make it better? That you failed in love doesn’t mean that you are a failure. That you couldn’t succeed in business or an exam doesn’t mean you have failed. Learning to see the “learning curve” in that experience and striving to correct your “bus route” is the expected reaction.

Secondly, understand that your decisions determines your destiny. You are what you decide to eat, think, see, feel and believe. As simple as marriage is, it can be the difference between a wonderful adult life and a miserable one. I usually like to see decisions as equally to voting. The impetus is to “Vote Wisely” on who you intend to associate with, what you intend to spend your money on and the commitments you intend to take. You decisions yesterday ultimately decide your today and your decisions today will ultimately decide your tomorrow. So please “Vote Wisely”. When you spend time with angry and resentful people, you will be angry and resentment. When you spend time with the wise, you will ultimately be wise.

Thirdly, it’s never too late to start all over. Connecting the dots in your life requires that you take time to reflect on past decisions. And where necessary, take yourself by the bootstraps and start all over again. Ever tried to write and 50 page essay and your computer crashed right on the 45 page mark. Trust me you will feel like breaking a window. That’s how you feel when you come to a place of regret for many wasted years. Yes you might not be able to take back those years, but you can surely create a new story. The newness of life daily is a seal of approval from heaven that you can start over. Sure being laid off can appear like a statement on your competence, but you can always disprove that by start over in a new industry or even starting your own business.

Getting a divorce need not mean the end of your love and romantic life. Many have re-discovered true love after a failed marriage.

Let me end with the famous quote from Steve Jobs “You can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something”. Ultimately, the past offers us the information to reflect and the future offers us an opportunity to correct.

If you have been down and out or beaten black and blue by circumstances of life. Don’t give up. Where life is, hope remains. Don’t think because you are 40 or 50, you are out of time. Some of the most successful business men in the US started at 40. Stan Lee created his greatest comic work in his 40s. Sam Jackson didn’t get a lead role in hollywood until he was 43. Henry Ford was 45 when he created d revolutionary Model T car. Charles Darwin didn’t influence science until he was 50. Infact, a study by Easy Life Cover, says 1 in 3 new businesses in the US were started by an entrepreneur age 50 or older. Don’t let age and society’s definition of success and failure tell you what you can and cannot do. #DefileCulture by #BreakingBarriers . Remember the words of the late Sage Steve Jobs “Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish”, #ConnectTheDot and #DefileTheNorm by #BreakingBarriers

What a great session with @yinkanubi 🔥🔥🔥🔥Thanks Yinka for those insightful words. 

Appreciate our fam ❤ ❤ for staying tune.

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Remember with GOD its PEOPLE like US that SUCCEED in LIFE

I remain your faithful Agent of #BreakingBarriers 

Host : Adedayo Olabamiji 

Twitter : @dayus4heaven 

Blog : unleashidea.wordpress.com 

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