YOU CAN PUSH THROUGH 

Posted: June 25, 2017 in UNLEASHIDEA INC.


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You Can PUSH Through! 

J. K Rowling is one of the most inspirational success stories of our time. Many people simply know her as the woman who created Harry Potter.  But, what most people don’t know is what she went through prior to reaching stardom. Rowling’s life was not peaches and cream. She struggled tremendously.
In 1990, Rowling first had the idea for Harry Potter. She stated that the idea came “fully formed” into her mind one day while she was on a train from Manchester to London. She began writing furiously. However, later that year, her mother died after 10 years of complications from Multiple Sclerosis.
In 1992 she moved to Portugal to teach English where she met a man, married, and had a daughter. In 1993, her marriage ended in divorce and she moved to Edinburgh, Scotland to be closer to her sister. At that time, she had three chapters of Harry Potterin her suitcase.
Rowling saw herself as a failure at this time. She was jobless, divorced, penniless, and with a dependent child. She suffered through bouts of depression, eventually signing up for government-assisted welfare. It was a difficult time in her life, but she pushed through the failures.
Today, Rowling has sold more than 400 million copies of her books, and is considered to be the most successful woman author in the United Kingdom. 
She once said : Some failure in life is inevitable. It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all—in which case, you fail by default.
Thinking of quitting? I dare you to give one more try! Activate Now the will to succeed. Don’t rest on your oars,  keep your eyes on the VISION. If not for anything or anyone but for YOURSELF! 

Remember with its people like us that succeed in life. 
To your success, 

Adedayo Olabamiji

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Eight Choices You Can Make Today that Will Change Your Life Forever

The direction of our lives is determined by the choices we make every day. They accumulate and add up to our ultimate destiny. 

Here are eight choices you can make – choices that will create for you a life of abundance and prosperity in all areas of your life. 

👉 Choose to grow personally : This sounds simple but many people only wish to grow personally. They never choose to grow by taking action, such as actually exercising, saving more money etc. Make a decision today to be a person who is on the never ending journey of personal growth. 

👉Choose to always treat others right.

We come across all sorts of people, many of whom will treat us poorly. We can choose to treat them right, no matter how they treat us. When the lie, we will tell the truth. When the cheat, we will play by the rules. We may get the short end of the stick some times, but in the long-run we will win. And most importantly, we will be able to sleep at night. 

👉Choose to break a bad habit.

Take the biggie first. Tackle it head on. If you dont know what it is, ask a friend. Then spend every effort you can to break that habit. Forget about the others, as you will get to them later. Stop smoking, get out of debt, lose your excess weight. Exercise the power to choose! 

👉Choose to work smarter.

Many people I work with feel like they are out of balance. One of the first things I do is try to find out how much time they are wasting at work, which makes them work longer, which throws the rest of their life into chaos. Getting your work done by diligently working in the time you have will free your life up extraordinarily. 

👉Choose to see your work as a way to help others, and not a way to make money. Put your heart into helping others, the money will most assuredly come. Spend time helping others grow and your finances will grow with it. 

👉Choose to become balanced spiritually, emotionally and physically. Our lives are best when we have these three major areas in balance. Spend some time cultivating your spirituality, becoming emotionally healthy, and physically fit. 

👉Choose to sow more than you reap.

There are many takers in this world, but our lives will be better as we become givers. The world will become better as we become givers. Give away your time, give away your money, give away your love.

👉Choose to get home for dinner more often.

The family is the most important group of people you will ever belong to. Make a decision today to grow in your relationship with your parents, siblings, spouse and children. This one choice you will never regret.

One of my favorite quotes:

The history of free men is never written by chance,but by choice – their choice. Dwight D. Eisenhower

You got choices to make! 

Remember with God its people like us that SUCCEED in life. 

To your success, 

Adedayo Olabamiji 

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Seven Steps to Achieving Your Dream 

Vision is the spectacular that inspires us to carry out the mundane. 

Can achievement be broken down into steps? Well, it isnt always that clean and easy, but I do know that those who achieve great things usually go through much of the same process, with many of the items listed below as part of that process. 
So if you have been struggling with achievement, look through the following and internalize the thoughts presented. 
Then begin to apply them. You will be on the road to achieving your dream! 
👉Dream it : Everything begins in the heart and mind. Every great achievement began in the mind of one person. 
👉Believe it: its my belief that what you believe you receive! Yes, your dream needs to be big. It needs to be something that is seemingly beyond your capabilities. But it also must be believable. 
👉See it :The great achievers have a habit. They “see” things. They picture themselves walking around their CEO office in their new 25 million-dollar corporate headquarters, even while they are sitting on a folding chair in their garage “headquarters.” What are you seeing? 
👉Tell it: One reason many dreams never go anywhere is because the dreamer keeps it all to himself. It is a quiet dream that only lives inside of his mind. The one who wants to achieve their dream must tell that dream to many people. 
👉Plan it: Every dream must take the form of a plan. The old saying that you “get what you plan for” is so true. Your dream won’t just happen. You need to sit down, on a regular basis, and plan out your strategy for achieving the dream. Think through all of the details. Break the whole plan down into small, workable parts. Then set a time frame for accomplishing each task on your “dream plan.” 
👉Work it: Boy, wouldn’t life be grand if we could quit before this one! Unfortunately the successful are usually the hardest workers. I have an equation that I work with: Your short-term tasks, multiplied by time, equal your long-term accomplishments. If you work on it each day, eventually you will achieve your dream. 
👉Enjoy it: When you have reached your goal and you are living your dream, be sure to enjoy it. In fact, enjoy the trip too. Give yourself some rewards along the way. Give yourself a huge reward when you get there. Help others enjoy it. Be gracious and generous. 

I hope you are blessed going through this? 
To your success, 

Adedayo Olabamiji

Twitter : @dayusheaven 

1. Today is a great day and I pleased to be sharing this platform tonight on #BreakingBarriers Thank you Mr @dayus4heaven for having me.

2. People who know me from the past will know that I speak better than I write. #BreakingBarriers

3. Today I shall be writing as if I am speaking because I am passionate today’s topic. #BreakingBarriers

4. Today I shall be sharing about turning your Passion into Profit: Making a sense of your experience. #BreakingBarriers

5. I am Sola FAJANA, I am a Medical Doctor, Wellness Strategist, Inspirational Speaker, Leader and Social Entrepreneur. #BreakingBarriers

6. I will not be delving into purpose, I will just stay on the point on how you make a meaning of your Passion. #BreakingBarriers

7. Sit back, relax and read because I am about to tell you 5 Short but incredible stories of my life. Ready? Lego! #BreakingBarriers

8. I met this beautiful lady at one of the hospital I volunteered to work, I just newly graduated medical school. #BreakingBarriers

9. She came for treatment for a flu, she was seen by a senior colleague, I liked her and we exchanged contacts. #BreakingBarriers

10. Despite being sick, she was still very radiant and beautiful. No foundation, No ruby Woo, No Contouring. Lol #BreakingBarriers

11. We became friends for a few months after she visited the hospital and so we had our first date. #BreakingBarriers

12. The date was at Rhapsody. My Old white golf 3 car had developed a fault. I don’t want to mess my date up. #BreakingBarriers

13. I “kak” up, called Uber. We met, ate and talked. She asked me where my car was and I said I didn’t come with a car. #BreakingBarriers

14. I could read the disappointment on her face. Do you have a car? she asked. I have a VW golf 3 Car I was managing. #BreakingBarriers

15. Then she said asked how old are you? I told her. She said what have you been doing all your life? #BreakingBarriers

16. My heart sank! I told her I had a Start up in Agric at Modakeke, I have a little transport business and I am Doctor. #BreakingBarriers

17. I am doing a telemedicine projects also. She said to me what made my heart sink more “I can’t see all thoes things”. #BreakingBarriers

18. “I expect a basic minimum from someone of your age”. I am a lady but I still have some basic things in my life. #BreakingBarriers

19. She drove me in her car to a place I could get a Taxi back home. Insomnia struck me that night.. Lol. #BreakingBarriers

20. That night I said to myself instead of being resentful like many would do, I’ll turn this into a positive experience. #BreakingBarriers

21. Story short, I asked myself how I could turn my passion into Profit. That kick started my online private coaching. #BreakingBarriers

22. I got a car that costs a few millions of naira few months after I started coaching people on some Health Therapies. #BreakingBarriers

23. God has an idea in mind for creating you and God has a problem he has specifically created you to solve. #BreakingBarriers

24. No man who has a gift fueled by a passion should never lack wealth. God does not fail in business. #BreakingBarriers

25. To turn your Passion into Profit, you need to be pushed off your comfort zone. That’s how you can profit! #BreakingBarriers

26. When I was in High school, I had just transferred into a new school. It affected my grades, I also had a skin disorder.#BreakingBarriers

27. It made my classmates discriminate against me. My grades dropped even more. I was very devastated. #BreakingBarriers

28. After a poor performance in a test, my teacher called my name and grade and right in front of my class she said.. #BreakingBarriers

29. “Sola you’re so dull and the best you can become is a bus Conductor. I proved her wrong and went on to be a Doctor”. #BreakingBarriers

30. When I was teaching, my students loved me so much because I always motivate them for 5 minutes before every class. #BreakingBarriers

31. One of my students back then saw me sometimes ago, she is studying Medicine and thank me for always telling my story. #BreakingBarriers

32. Again this leads me to another fact, if you want to turn your Passion into Profit you need to fill a void. #BreakingBarriers

33. Be different, you can’t be everybody. You need to be unique, with a unique approach and touch to whatever you do. #BreakingBarriers

34. The skin disorder I had (Chronic Urticaria) in high school was with me until my 5th year in medical school. #BreakingBarriers

35. I made the diagnosis when studying Allergies in my Dermatology and I have managed myself ever since. That’s not all! #BreakingBarriers

36. There has been no patient with Chronic Urticaria that I have missed. I have become a Professor in Chronic Urticaria. #BreakingBarriers

37.  I remember a patient who still send me gifts for making a Diagnosis of Chronic Urticaria years back. #BreakingBarriers

38.  He has met several Doctors and specialists but could not find a solution to the problem until he met me. #BreakingBarriers

39. I told him of my experience & helped him every single step of the way. Today, he hasn’t had a single episode in years. #BreakingBarriers

40. What you are currently experiencing may be a gold mine. Explore it, package it and you will make good money from it. #BreakingBarriers

41. SocialDoc and telemedicine has given me platforms I may not have gotten if I was sitting down in my room. #BreakingBarriers

42. Since September 2013, I have being imparting not less than 10,000 persons every week through social media platforms. #BreakingBarriers

43. It has not been easy, considering my work schedule as a Doctor but it must be done. #BreakingBarriers

44. I am heading for a tipping point. I want to achieve my 10,000 hours mark doing what I love to do. Touching lives! #BreakingBarriers

45. It has been said that people who spend at least 10,000 hours doing their passion will become a “Pro” at it. #BreakingBarriers

46. Focus, investing time and resources, Resilience, Research, Study and it will pay off. #BreakingBarriers

47. I have since shared stage with great minds. Google I/O, TedX to mention a few, is what I have gotten from doing this. #BreakingBarriers

48. I expect more in future, as I evolve and learn new ways of doing my passion differently. #BreakingBarriers

49. You need to be different, I don’t share medical tips as if I want to start a medical school on facebook. #BreakingBarriers

50.I share Simple, “easy to digest” Health tips that will help people imbibe healthy habits. #BreakingBarriers

51. That is how I am different, I am not others, I am Dr Sola FAJANA, your kind and nice Wellness Strategist. #BreakingBarriers

52. Lastly In 1994, I was involved in a ghastly motor crash riding with Dad on a bad Nigerian road. #BreakingBarriers

53.  It calmed my Dad’s life and many others. The died at the emergency room of the same hospital I trained as a Doctor. #BreakingBarriers

54. It was a very painful experience of my life. I was meditating some sometimes ago and I heard a voice saying… #BreakingBarriers

55. What does a bitter experience do to you if you don’t channel it positively into correcting a wrong. Nothing! #BreakingBarriers

56. I heard a voice telling me “Sola! You’ll use the old rubble of past lives to build anew. #BreakingBarriers

57. Rebuild the foundations from out of your past. You’ll be known as those who can fix anything. #BreakingBarriers

58. Restore old ruins, rebuild and renovate, make the community livable again.” #BreakingBarriers

59. Friends, life is a journey where we need to channel our passion positively and profit from it. #BreakingBarriers

60. If we all channel our passion positively the world will be a more beautiful and a profitable place. #BreakingBarriers

60. It is possible! It is doable! A better Nigeria and better community is achievable with you. #BreakingBarriers

61. God bless the “Breaking Barriers” platform for putting me on this, God bless you for reading and God bless Nigeria. #BreakingBarriers

Thank you @dayus4heaven. That’s all for tonight kindly retweet to your followers. THE END! #BreakingBarriers

Wow…………. 🙏 
Want to appreciate Sola Fajana for sharing those insightful words on #BreakingBarriers 👏 👏 

Thanks for reading, don’t hesitate to drop a question or comment below. 

Remember with God its people its people like us that SUCCEED in life. 
To your success, 

Adedayo Olabamiji 

BEYOND LIMITATIONS 

Posted: May 13, 2017 in UNLEASHIDEA INC.

 

#BreakingBarriers Topic is Beyond Limitations. Simply means we all have limitations. What do you do with then? Fight or flight?
 #BreakingBarriers 1. Figure out your limitations or perceived limitations.

#BreakingBarriers 2. Work on the limitations. Conquer them. Turn them into inspiring step stones to achieve goals.

#BreakingBarriers 3. Find someone who knows better than you and learn. Be teachable. Get a mentor.

#BreakingBarriers 4. Have a sounding board. Who can assess your progress in that particular area? I write. I assess writing.

#BreakingBarriers 5. Conquer your fear of these limitations. Be bold about seeking help. Sealed mouth. Sealed destiny.

#BreakingBarriers 6. If you can’t decide on your limitations ask someone who may see you better than you do yourself.

#BreakingBarriers 6. Personally I am confident but can come across as brash or arrogant. It was a limitation pointed out to me. It helped.

#BreakingBarriers 7. You are created to solve a unique problem, fill a unique role? If you limit yourself it’s a life less lived. Sad!

#BreakingBarriers 8. Choose the right crowd going your way. Go with doctors if you want to be one. Go with writers, dancers, artists etc

#BreakingBarriers  If you go with those that are succeeding at your dreams you will learn the ropes to success. If you go opposite them…

#BreakingBarriers …. you learn nothing and you may fail or succeed at a much higher price.

#BreakingBarriers 9. Believe you can do it. Words of self affirmation work wonders. If you say you can you’re right. If you say you can’t..

#BreakingBarriers 10. Believe in God. Whatever higher power you serve…believe and pray. Without God all else is in vain.

#BreakingBarriers 11. Fight the limitations. Is it lack of app skillset? Poor grammar? Lack of confidence? Fight to eliminate them.

#BreakingBarriers 12. Flight is defeatist. The limitations await you. Deal with it squarely. Face it/them doggedly. Winners don’t quit!

#BreakingBarriers 13. I’m having a bit of network challenges. Will respond to questions as it frees up.

#BreakingBarriers 14.  Do you know that you can use a conquered limitation to carve a niche for urself?Teachers are forged in the fires of life.

#BreakingBarriers 15.Practice makes perfect. Keep writing. Keep reading. Keep singing. Keep playing football. Improvement is a journey.

#BreakingBarriers 16. Perfection is a journey not a destination. You can’t stop learning else you start unlearning.

#BreakingBarriers 17.  It’s been an honour sharing with y’all. Network didn’t help much. Tweet privately with questions. I will help all I can.

We want to appreciate Jane Akwani for sharing those insightful words on #BreakingBarriers. 
To your success, 

Adedayo Olabamiji 

DARE YOUR FEARS

Posted: April 26, 2017 in UNLEASHIDEA INC.

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Dare Your Fears!! 😱 

Today I want to challenge to face your fears of letting go! Your ability to activate greater results in life is in letting go of those things that doesn’t matter and embrace new.  

Let go that toxic relationship, old friends, task,  things,  place,  et al 
There are few common fears that appear when it’s time to let go of something.  What are you hanging on to even though it’s time to let go? Which of these pesky fears is it time to face? 

1. Fear of being wrong?

2. Fear of the unknown ?

3. Fear of regret? 

4. Fear of loneliness ?

5. Dear of what people will say? Damn it jare! Lol 
Breaking through fear requires on key factor: COURAGE.  Courage requires FAITH and TRUST that your future will be okay without the thing you are letting go of.  

What, who, where are you holding which are destroying, limiting or will have negative impact on your life? Let GO today and activate yourself for greatness! Trust your struggles! You are illimitable. 
Today promises to be great on #BreakingBarriers as Sola Fajana takes the stage in the concluding series of PASSION TO PROFIT.  You can’t afford to miss this great session. 
Remember with God its people like us that succeed in life. 

To your success, 

Adedayo Olabamiji

1. ​it’s been a great day, from ensuring a #CleanWarri to #BreakingBarriers @dayus4heaven @BreakingBarrie3 #NoToDomesticViolence
2. A lot’s been said today but let me add my little: The thoughts of a teen who cries “get that voice out of my head” #NoToDomesticViolence

3. There are so many great thoughts running in my mind but for that voice which taunts me #NoToDomesticViolence @dayus4heaven

4. In my heart I know am right but in my mind I can’t decipher my left from right #NoToDomesticViolence

5. It is louder than noise itself, it steals my peace and health #NoToDomesticViolence

6. It drives me crazy that I now act insane. Have I lost my mind? Oh that voice inside #NoToDomesticViolence

7. It drowns my dreams and feeds my fears, my light’s gone dim I wake in tears #NoToDomesticViolence

8. Oh that voice within my head, someone please help or am dead #NoToDomesticViolence

9. Get that voice out of my head so I can add to life like butter on bread #NoToDomesticViolence

10. Get that voice out of my head, I have so much to be, do & share before I grow some beard #NoToDomesticViolence

11. Get that voice out of my head, stop your noise, listen instead #NoToDomesticViolence

12. Get that voice out of my head, I am a rainbow, beautiful, not only coloured in red. #NoToDomesticViolence

13. The cries of children (#teens) are mostly unheard because their voice is silenced by oppression from seniors #NoToDomesticViolence

14. Denying #Teens the right to express & contribute their uniqueness is a plaguing abuse. Everyone matter. #NoToDomesticViolence

15. Before we fill their thoughts with our words, let’s give them chance to speak their minds #NoToDomesticViolence

16. Before we punish their hideous acts, let’s ensure we orient in love with words and action #NoToDomesticViolence

17. Dysfunctional adults are a reflection of a dysfunctional childhood. #NoToDomesticViolence

18. Correction done in anger incubates violence that leads to chaos #NoToDomesticViolence

19. Words of wisdom sealed in an envelope of love, leaves a more indelible impression in the heart of a #Teen #NoToDomesticViolence

20. Physical beating may toughen #Teens but it weakens the foundation of their value systems #NoToDomesticViolence

21. Let this be our reason not to have a reason for violence; that to get better, we need to do better. #NoToDomesticViolence

22. Violence violates every principle that leads to opulence, I AM CHUNU TEJIRI JERRY, I SAY #NoToDomesticViolence

Thanks you Tejiri Chunu for those insightful words on #BreakingBarriers #NoToDomesticViolence 

To your success,

Adedayo Olabamiji  

Passion To Profit 

Posted: April 14, 2017 in UNLEASHIDEA INC.

​1. Traditional advice says, “Find a job. Any job.” But the world’s most successful people say, “Passion drives progress, which becomes success.” #BreakingBarriers

2. Tech entrepreneurs like Larry Page, Mark Zuckerberg and Jeff Bezos know the best laid plans lie not in the details, but in the spark that initiated them. 

3.  Napoleon Hill did extensive research of the world’s richest men in his time.

4.  Their stories varied, but their commitment to their vision was a constant, and that set them apart from the mere mortals. Secret of being consistent over a course or things you do is traced passion.

5.  Hill says do what you love, or else you will lack the energy to become truly successful.

6.  “No man can succeed in a line of endeavour which he does not like,

 7. “It is the soul’s duty to be loyal to its own desires. It must abandon itself to its master passion.” —Rebecca West

8.  The thing with passion is that you can’t fake it

9. Truth is obvious that we can no more explain a passion to a person who has never experienced it than we can explain light to the blind. Its deep! 

10. You need to understand that  passion, not money, is one of the key drivers of success.

11. Do not wait for better times, because there is never going to be the perfect time.

12. We must act out passion before we can feel it. And you can’t argue with that logic. 

13. Nothing is as important as passion. No matter what you want to do with your life, be passionate.”

14. f you feel like there’s something out there that you’re supposed to be doing, if you have a passion for it, then stop wishing and just do it.” —Wanda Skyes

15. The only way to do great work is to love what you do. keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it.” Steve Job

16. Oprah Winfrey corroborates this: “Passion is energy. Feel the power that comes from focusing on what excites you.

17. Why is passion such a powerful motivator? It keeps you going even when all seems down. 

18. Only passion makes your goals attractive. 

19. When passion is involved in a cause, you will be glad to jump out of the best to chase your dreams.

20. What you are passionate about drives and engage the whole of you and hence enable you invest much energy.

21.  if you want something badly enough, you will find the willpower to achieve it and you won’t stop trying until you do.

22. Passion is that which deeply stirs us. It’s the fire from within and that which motivates us. 

23. When passion is missing, our actions lack meaning and we don’t get the results we want … passion is the seed from which commitment blossoms

24. Work is only one component of our lives (or it should be). 

25. If you’re passionate about feeding the poor or helping the homeless, you don’t have to get a job in a soup kitchen or at a homeless shelter.

26. You just need to make the commitment to find time and opportunities to get out there and help. 

27. In today’s overscheduled world, is it hard to carve out some time to do things you truly love? It certainly can be.

28.  But no one who seriously talks about pursuing their passion ever says it is easy. They do, however, unequivocally say that it’s worth the effort.

29. Just like a plant needs water, your passion needs to be nurtured a little bit every day in order for it to grow to the point where it becomes obvious to you and the rest of the world,” says Schwartz.

30. There is no passion to be found playing small—in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living. —Nelson Mandela

  31. Honestly you find ease when passion is involved in anything you do! Life is too short to live frustrated.

32. As you get engrossed and loyal to what works for you, profit set in and life pays you back directly or indirectly.

33. Your ability to give solution, meet deadlines, empowered creativity and perfect delivery is locked down in doing what you are passionate about.

34. Expand your passion:

35. When you start a business based on a personal interest, it can be easy to assume that the business must remain on the same track to maintain your dedication. 

36. But the most successful entrepreneurs understand that change is good and that there may be more than one way to meet your original goals

37. Keep the passion alive.

 38. Once your business gets going, you can become mired in the daily tasks of running a company and watch your original excitement dry up. 

39. Keep your passion alive by staying involved in the aspects you love most

40. Spending too much time on repetitive tasks you can delegate to others will ultimately dampen your enthusiasm and end up burning you out. 

41. Otherwise, your work will turn into a form of drudgery that may kill your passion for the original hobby.”

42. I challenge you to looking inward, follow your passion, live your dreams and fulfill purpose.

Thanks fam for staying tune! 
Remember with God its people like us that succeed in life..
To your success,

Adedayo Olabamiji 

SELF ESTEEM 

Posted: April 8, 2017 in UNLEASHIDEA INC.


1. ​Thank you @dayus4heaven for the warm welcome. An awesome time reading wisdom from other guests. #NotoDomesticViolence #BreakingBarriers

2. Domestic Violence affects us all, Sometimes its not so obvious. #NotoDomesticViolence #BreakingBarriers @dayus4heaven

3. It starts from an areas we feel is just fine until lifes experience, bring them to a surface. #NotoDomesticViolence #BreakingBarriers

4. That part is Self Esteem. You need it to face Life. In fact its what you need to avoid DV. #NotoDomesticViolence #BreakingBarriers

5. Many a DV victim points to a time in their life Self Esteem awareness was an issue. #NotoDomesticAwarenes #BreakingBarriers

6. Self Esteem is much of the confidence you have as much as the confidence parents confer on you. #NotoDomestiViolence #BreakingBarriers

7. For some Parents did a good job building Confidence,they say Nothing was a secret in our family. #NotoDomesticViolence #BreajkingVarriers

8.For children from such homes face challenges in relationships better. Nobody can put them down #NotoDomestiViolence #BreakingBarriers

9. Self Esteem is very important, People who faced DV,say gradual erosion of self esteem was a first. #NotoDomesticViolence #BreakingBarriers

10. An Abusive person always targets your self Esteem, Sometimes it’s not intentional at first. #NotoDomestiViolence #BreakingBarriers

11. Then the apologies, again to yells and slaps until its downright beating. #NotoDomestiViolence #BreakingBarriers

12. Until it became constant, Sometimes we expect the woman or man to Walk, hard at this point,Why? #NotoDomesticViolence #BreakingBarriers

13. Because the Self Esteem is gone, That’s why the lady says she can’t she’s got nothing left #NotoDomestiViolence #BreakingBarriersh

14. Lack of Self Esteem would make you accept a conditioning of lifestyle and mindset to DV.#NotoDomestiViolence #BreakingBarriers

15. Have wondered why an Abusive person who lacks self worth, knows how to target anothers Self Esteem?#NotoDomestiViolence #BreakingBarriers

16. Very Easy, You can’t give what you don’t have. So stay aware of who you are at all times #NotoDomestiViolence #BreakingBarriershealthy

17. What state are you in right now? So much is going on and a healthy Self Esteem is your Ammo #NotoDomesticViolence #BreakingBarriers

18. When a Man or Woman belittles you, take note and ask questions. Never be afraid to ask. #NotoDomesticViolence #BreakingBarriers

19. You are constantly put in a state when you’re surrounded by violence #NotoDomesticViolence #BreakingBarriers

20. Start with your first Weapon your Self Esteem! Where you have that,you’ll thrive #NotoDomesticViolence #BreakingBarriers

21. Domestic Abuse starts when the Abuser knows your Self Esteem is gone #NotoDomesticViolence #BreakingBarriers

22. Guard it,its your safety net for yourself and your generation Broken people need heal to Lead so Heal! Thank you #NotoDomesticViolence
We want to appreciate Bukola Ajiboye for those insightful words on #BreakingBarriers
Remember with God its people like us that succeed in life. 
To your success, 

Adedayo Olabamiji  

DEMYSTIFYING ABUSE 

Posted: April 8, 2017 in UNLEASHIDEA INC.

1.  Good evening everyone. My name is Eniola Ennmae Adeniji and tonight I will speaking on the topic: Demystifying Abuse. #BreakingBarriers

2. People often think of domestic violence as men/women being physically violent towards their partners. #NoToDomesticViolence

3. Domestic violence is a pattern of abusive and threatening behaviors that may include physical, emotional, #NoToDomesticViolence

4. Economic and sexual violence as well as intimidation, isolation and coercion.

5. The purpose of domestic violence is often to establish and exert power and control over another; #NoToDomesticViolence

6.  Men most often use it against their intimate partners, such as current or former spouses or dating partners. #NoToDomesticViolence

7. Domestic violence is behavior that is learned through observation & reinforcement in both the family & society. #NoToDomesticViolence

8. It is not caused by genetics or illness. Domestic violence is repeated because it works. #NoToDomesticViolence

9. Domestic violence allows the perpetrator to gain control of the victim through fear and intimidation. #NoToDomesticViolence

10. Gaining the victim’s compliance, even temporarily, reinforces the perpetrator’s use of these tactics of control.

11. More importantly, however, the perpetrator’s abusive behavior is reinforced by the socially sanctioned belief. #NoToDomesticViolence

12. The one that says men have the right to control women in relationships and to use force to ensure that control. #NoToDomesticViolence

13.  At the age of 22 I was married. I was young, naive,had a great life and job. Domestic violence was just a mirth #NoToDomesticViolence

14. I was oh so in love.I just couldn’t wait for forever. Until a month to the wedding and I was asked to resign. #NoToDomesticViolence

15. It was subtle, yet it was a demand I didn’t seem to have a choice in. He was going to be my husband afterall. #NoToDomesticViolence

16. He wanted me to resign from my job, since we’d be relocating to another town. I was in love, what could go wrong. #NoToDomesticViolence

17. It all began first with making sure I had no source of income then it proceeded to isolation and eventually abuse. #NoToDomesticViolence

18. We need to know that domestic violence can take a variety of shapes and forms. #NoToDomesticViolence

19. From emotional abuse, to sexual abuse and of course to near-fatal physical battering. #NoToDomesticViolence

20. Both married and unmarried women can experience domestic violence, so it isn’t limited to only those married. #NoToDomesticViolence

21.  The first time I spoke out about being abused,someone had asked ‘Did he hit you’, I said NO. She laughed it off #NoToDomesticViolence

22. Yet I was abused daily. But because I wasn’t beaten black and blue, then it was regarded as not a big deal. #NoToDomesticViolence

23. Yet I had fears going to bed every night, because he’d force himself on me and I’d end up with bruises. #NoToDomesticViolence

24. Yet, I wasn’t allowed to go out nor allowed any visitor. We don’t go visiting anyone and no one came visiting. #NoToDomesticViolence

25. The first time I spoke about being a victim of economic abuse in a meeting, everyone had laughed silly, lol. #NoToDomesticViolence

26.  Economic abuse Is defined as making or attempting to make an individual financially dependent. #NoToDomesticViolence

27. By maintaining total control over financial resources,withholding access to money,or forbidding one’s employment #NoToDomesticViolence

28. Yet I found myself here. From being a young purposeful & successful young girl to a woman who can’t afford a pad #NoToDomesticViolence

29. I had to depend on him being happy as a determinant of me having a pad 2 use monthly, or risk using cut fabrics #NoToDomesticViolence

30. I had to depend on the #200 (Two hundred naira), daily given to me, as long as he was happy. #NoToDomesticViolence

31. I finally walked out after 3 miserable years. Yes, I was judged and ridiculed. The stigmatization was at my face. #NoToDomesticViolence

32. Yes I was judged because the society believes, I must have deserve it. Oh, you ought to die there as a woman. #NoToDomesticViolence

33. But that is the story of quite a lot of women. I have counselled over 100 women and just bits of differences. #NoToDomesticViolence

34. We have been made to believe it is only expected of d woman to mk it work. And if it isn’t,just stay there mute #NoToDomesticViolence

35. Nobody deserves to be treated cruel and like an animal. Never ever let anyone make you believe that. #NoToDomesticViolence

36. You are not alone, do not die in an abusive relationship not marriage. If you need help, please seek for it. #NoToDomesticViolence

37. Yes, you may be judged, you may even be laughed at by some. But you  would be ‘Alive’. And that’s all that count #NoToDomesticViolence

38. Thank you very much for having me. I look forward to sharing more in the future. Have a good evening. #NoToDomesticViolence
We want to appreciate Eniola for those expository and insightful words on #BreakingBarriers.
Remember with God its people like us that succeed in life.  
To your success, 

Adedayo Olabamiji  

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